I gotta air out a big pet peeve of mine. It’s something that is especially difficult because the people who do it have the best of intentions but have no idea what they are actually communicating.
As vain as i am and as much as i love compliments, if the only thing you have to say to me after watching me on TV or in a film is that I look hot or really good or super pretty, please say nothing at all. As far as i’m concerned that compliment is for the makeup department, wardrobe, and the DP. It’s not why i do what i do. it feels like a punch in the stomach.
Imagine an artist or a musician showing you their painting or a song. Do you tell them how the painting makes you feel? That you like their work? Point out something more specific in the piece? Think of how disappointed a songwriter would feel if all you had to say was “you look so good!” when they finally played you the song they’ve been killing themselves over. or if you said to the painter, “Wow that’s a really nice canvas you painted on! What a great frame!”
Like any other artist, actors craft their piece, their character, in order to give the audience an experience. if the only thing that i offer as an actor is how pretty i am, then i really don’t need to be doing any work at all.
In the complimenters’ defense, there are a ton of actors who look at film or television projects as one epic #selfie, but please don’t group me in with them.